too clingy

I'm Too Clingy I have a problem. I just started dating someone. She's my first girlfriend. I feel like I am too clingy, and needy, and that it's getting to her. I asked her, and she said she didn't think I was clingy, but it was obvious she was lying. I've never dated anyone before, and I really like my girlfriend. I'm afraid to lose her. I text her all the time, or call her, and when she doesn't reply or call back. I get depressed and really sad. She's never the one to call me first, it's always me. I feel like I need her around me all the time. I don't feel right when I'm not with her. I feel insecure. I get anxious, and I think there's something wrong with me. I don't want to be controlling or abusive. I can't do that. For some reason. I feel like I need her, and she can't be around all the time for me. I have a problem don't I? I care about her more than she cares about me. Edited: 11/18/2011 2:09 PM by View Properties Reply Remember this is your first dating experience. The reason why people date is to see if they make a connection -- Do they enjoy each other's company? Do they share some common interests? Do you have the same moral compass? It is a great feeling when you make this connection, but do not assume this connection means that the two of you are one. You are not. You are both individuals. You will have some differences. You will have other friends. Usually when a person is anxious, clingy, jealous with their partner it is due to one of these reasons: #1 that person has cheated before or given you reason to believe that they are not being honest with you #2 you are insecure in your relationship due to your own history or lack of experience Open honest communication is key to a healthy relationship. If you have a feeling that she is not being honest with you, tell her that even if she thinks it might disappoint you or anger you, you would always rather have the truth. No one is going to be around for someone 100% of the time. When she is not with you focus on some of your own interests and other relationships. Maybe hang out with your siblings, talk to a parent, call another friend, take a walk with a neighbor. Now think about how you feel if someone hugs you hard and you can't breathe. It is stifling right? No one likes that feeling. It is suffocating. Give your new girlfriend some breathing room. Good luck. Laura - Crisis Counselor