Happy one year anniversary to us!!!!

On my way to new orleans with my hubby byron!!!!! Today is our one year annivwrsary and we're tryimg to celebrateitt to da fullest any means necessary

too clingy

I'm Too Clingy I have a problem. I just started dating someone. She's my first girlfriend. I feel like I am too clingy, and needy, and that it's getting to her. I asked her, and she said she didn't think I was clingy, but it was obvious she was lying. I've never dated anyone before, and I really like my girlfriend. I'm afraid to lose her. I text her all the time, or call her, and when she doesn't reply or call back. I get depressed and really sad. She's never the one to call me first, it's always me. I feel like I need her around me all the time. I don't feel right when I'm not with her. I feel insecure. I get anxious, and I think there's something wrong with me. I don't want to be controlling or abusive. I can't do that. For some reason. I feel like I need her, and she can't be around all the time for me. I have a problem don't I? I care about her more than she cares about me. Edited: 11/18/2011 2:09 PM by View Properties Reply Remember this is your first dating experience. The reason why people date is to see if they make a connection -- Do they enjoy each other's company? Do they share some common interests? Do you have the same moral compass? It is a great feeling when you make this connection, but do not assume this connection means that the two of you are one. You are not. You are both individuals. You will have some differences. You will have other friends. Usually when a person is anxious, clingy, jealous with their partner it is due to one of these reasons: #1 that person has cheated before or given you reason to believe that they are not being honest with you #2 you are insecure in your relationship due to your own history or lack of experience Open honest communication is key to a healthy relationship. If you have a feeling that she is not being honest with you, tell her that even if she thinks it might disappoint you or anger you, you would always rather have the truth. No one is going to be around for someone 100% of the time. When she is not with you focus on some of your own interests and other relationships. Maybe hang out with your siblings, talk to a parent, call another friend, take a walk with a neighbor. Now think about how you feel if someone hugs you hard and you can't breathe. It is stifling right? No one likes that feeling. It is suffocating. Give your new girlfriend some breathing room. Good luck. Laura - Crisis Counselor

my feelings for you

Well as we all know, sometimes words are expressed better on paper than aloud,,yup right now i have lots of things to say reguarding how i feel about my sweety B. Hughes!!!

We have been in a relationship since august 11, 2011 and to say that's not that long too having been to fall 4 sum one i sure did... Not saying that U r 2 good to be liking me,,,I just never imagined myself with any boy like u...meaning your swagger,,attitude,,occupation,,,heart,,,respect towards me and others... When im n the same presence with u,,i become weak,,shy,,and i get froze...when im away i b having so much to tell u and think about loving u n many different "positive ways"...
Ok you know how whenever a relationship fail,,,,the two get to exposing and saying how much they hate each other,,it wasn't real 4rm the get go.. yeah thats not the kind of person i am...if things didn't work out,,i would be highly sad..(not upset)if something isnt meant to be neither of us would know because, who know what the future would have held??? you know, I cant make u love me or be with me...thats not how real love work!!!

Right now im telling u how i feel honestly,,and no matter if u feel the same way, im just being real..if u was to leave me 2day or tomorrow,,i wouldn't regret a second that i had spent with u 4 real...Being with u to me feels like a privelege that i know i deserve....:)

You do tell me 4rm time 2 time how u feel about me but only u n god above us know the truth!!! personally i think we should start showing each other how much we care instead of saying it...like exchanging gifts ever now and then,,,hanging out n public to show and prove that what we have is true




Marriage doesn't prove how much a person loves one another,,,,the truth inside of their heart does..just because u have good convo,,,intimacy,,,time,,etc..dnt mean u in love....Most of them barely last a good 6 months 4rm my observation...To me,, if u love some one u would do just about anything for them with no hesitation..if ands or buts about it....



I know we are young but its true that u cant help who u love n i think im near to being n that particular mind frame.. we have good conversation,,,the chemistry is there,,,,humor...etc... I cant even listen to a slow r&b song without getting alittle emotional about what we have...

Making a long story short,,,im really into you boo...i think about you 24/7 literally no lie...i dont plan on leaving u ever..i want this long term...through thick and thin i want u to be by my side...

I dont know everything that flow through your head,,,wish i could know the truth with mindful proof....


i have much love for you B keith Hughes.....This is some of how i feel about u baby boy....love u mwah...tear



until then im here with u love...

Trust Issues Truth

Trust Issues My boyfriend and I have been dating for 10 months today, and I'm so attached. I seriously want to spend the rest of my life with him. It seems like I am smothering him. He always comments about not hanging out with his friends, and that we spend to much time together. I honestly agree, but I don't want to spend time without him. I feel lost/depressed without him. If I give him space will he take advantage of that, and go out and do things I don't want him to be doing? I'm always wondering what he is doing. I have really bad trust issues, and I don't know what to do. That's awesome you took some time to open up and send us an e-mail this evening. It sounds like you care about your boyfriend a whole bunch, but you really do want to be careful about not smothering him too much. One of the most important aspects in a relationship is trust. Your boyfriend deserves to have time to spend with his friends without having to worry if you are going to feel let down, jealous, or upset. Honestly, it is healthy to spend some time apart in a relationship. Spending too much time together really can lead to feeling overwhelmed. You care about your boyfriend; and since you've been together 10 months he clearly has strong feelings for you as well. Trust is something that comes from within. Unless he has done something to betray your trust, then there really isn't anything he can do to change your mind and make you feel more secure in giving your trust to him. You say that you are afraid he will take the space you give him and do something to violate your trust, why? Has he done something in the past to make you feel this way? A whole bunch of teens struggle with putting their trust into someone else; it's a scary thing to do at first. You definitely don't want to be betrayed or have your trust thrown back into your face. But, at the same time, the only way to truly trust somebody is by taking a risk and being able to live with the outcome. You will probably be surprised at how less stressed out you are and how much more fulfilling the relationship is when the cloud of having to spend 24/7 with each other is no longer hanging over the relationship. It helps to set some ground rules for when he is hanging out with his friends. For example, when he is hanging out with his friends or doing something by himself, limit the amount of texts you send him. This can be difficult to do at first, but remember that giving each other space really is healthy for a relationship. Maybe it would help to plan things out ahead of time. For example, maybe on a Friday night he wants to hang out with his friends. By letting you know this ahead of time (like Wednesday or something) instead of Friday night right before the two of you were supposed to hang out, it will help you feel less left out. You and your feelings are important, but so are his. Keep hanging in there. We know that you care about your boyfriend and want to spend time with him, that is normal. But, so is his wanting some time to himself or with his friends. By respecting each other's boundaries your relationship will be much healthier, less stressful, and more fulfilling. Abe, Counselor http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/AskIt/Lists/Hotline%20Discusion%20Relationship/QuestionAnswer.aspx?RootFolder=%2FAskIt%2FLists%2FHotline%20Discusion%20Relationship%2FTrust%20Issues%203078&FolderCTID=0x01200200D21C7181DAF17F4C95B7D6D815D4CC6A